Cuz i love him too much, if not i wont be bothered to quarrel wid him......
Trust and privacy
Trust and privacy comes hand-in-hand. In order to give the trust, you need to open up and when that happens, your privacy will diminish. If you want privacy so you are withholding certain things from your SO. Its up to one to decide how much one trust the other party.
Trust is also about the confidence one has towards your SO. If you have more confidence with SO, you'll definite trust him/her more.Decision is all about information. The more information one has the better decision one makes. So in order for husband and wife to make better decision of course it is better to know everything.
I believe what some people mention is more on individual free space provided so that one has some privacy from their SO. Yes, such "free space" should be mutually agreed. Being married for >15yrs, it is everything (Love, feeling and responsibility). When one has responsibility to take care of the other, it comes from feeling for and loving the person. These three items are interlocking each other.
A marriage definite can last. It depends on whether one makes the effort to make it last or not. Take a look at the older generation, the divorce rates few decades ago were much lower than what it is now. If they can do it, why can the younger generation.
Friday, October 31, 2008
probs sigh~
Trust!
Being husband and wife need to be transparent to each other. hence, both should be comfortable with the limited privacy. limited privacy doesnt means no trust, it means show respect too. like hubby respect the wife, so he informed the wife where he is going and with who.. tat kind. doesnt necessarily means that the wife dun trust the husband hence husband need to report.
Women Like Badasses?!
Women don't like to be ill treated but they like to work for their attention.
Imagine a scenario where every guy in the room flocks over her, you barge in and give her a piece of your mind.
1) You're different from rest of the guys.
2) You DARE to be different.
3)by taking the road less traveled, you already created an impression on her mind.
No women in the right mind wants to be abused or beaten, but neither can they live with de average joe.Women need to feel that the man is special and thus individuality comes into play. When you're with her, you're not just 'another guy she dates' but rather footprints itself.Identity itself is a form of charisma, so don't be a badass, nor a doormat for girls to trample on.Women likes to be valued, appreciated,respected. Yet sometimes they also need to rant and b**ch.
A women will never have one type of mood through even a single day, let alone your whole life with her. They have mixed feelings. Accumulated thoughts, details. If you wanna know what's a mixed feeling, try having a orgasm and a leg cramp, both at a same time. pun intended.So my advice is, don't be total jerk, but somewhere in de middle. Play nice when you need to, and naughty when situation arises.
When we're young, single and carefree, we can deal with adventurous men who dump and ill-treated us. After all, badasses look more appealing and handsome, no? And it's challenging trying to 'tame' a badass rather than a nice guy. It makes us feel more powerful, you know. That is, if we succeeded in 'taming' him.
While nice guy, what is there to tame from the beginning?But in a marriage, we want a guy who's stable and kind. So all badasses out there, you can have as many women as you want in your youth. But once the charisma and yandao-ness go away, you're all alone.
-minghui-
Being husband and wife need to be transparent to each other. hence, both should be comfortable with the limited privacy. limited privacy doesnt means no trust, it means show respect too. like hubby respect the wife, so he informed the wife where he is going and with who.. tat kind. doesnt necessarily means that the wife dun trust the husband hence husband need to report.
Women Like Badasses?!
Women don't like to be ill treated but they like to work for their attention.
Imagine a scenario where every guy in the room flocks over her, you barge in and give her a piece of your mind.
1) You're different from rest of the guys.
2) You DARE to be different.
3)by taking the road less traveled, you already created an impression on her mind.
No women in the right mind wants to be abused or beaten, but neither can they live with de average joe.Women need to feel that the man is special and thus individuality comes into play. When you're with her, you're not just 'another guy she dates' but rather footprints itself.Identity itself is a form of charisma, so don't be a badass, nor a doormat for girls to trample on.Women likes to be valued, appreciated,respected. Yet sometimes they also need to rant and b**ch.
A women will never have one type of mood through even a single day, let alone your whole life with her. They have mixed feelings. Accumulated thoughts, details. If you wanna know what's a mixed feeling, try having a orgasm and a leg cramp, both at a same time. pun intended.So my advice is, don't be total jerk, but somewhere in de middle. Play nice when you need to, and naughty when situation arises.
When we're young, single and carefree, we can deal with adventurous men who dump and ill-treated us. After all, badasses look more appealing and handsome, no? And it's challenging trying to 'tame' a badass rather than a nice guy. It makes us feel more powerful, you know. That is, if we succeeded in 'taming' him.
While nice guy, what is there to tame from the beginning?But in a marriage, we want a guy who's stable and kind. So all badasses out there, you can have as many women as you want in your youth. But once the charisma and yandao-ness go away, you're all alone.
-minghui-
Saturday, October 11, 2008
A suppressed teardrop.
10 Oct 08 - a suppressed teardrop.
I felt really suffocated. Went to IMM to take a breather, but I just can't bring myself to hav a great smile. Im at a loss. Pigg bought 3 really nice tees @ $30! super good deal!
First time seeing him so happy, im happy for him too. But I couldnt bring myself to smile like I was before. For the first time in my life, I find it so hard to smile.
Then we went back hall after picking those good deals. During the moment of silence, I just hugged Pigg. I mentioned nothing and tears just rolled down my cheeks. I couldnt take it anymore.
I cried. Not because of Pigg nor anyone else.
Chemical Engineering, why is it so hard to study? Hav to tuition in order to support myself. I cant stop. I dont want my parents to suffer. They're old already. Thinking of this, every Sat I will drag my legs from the bed to bukit batok.
I felt really tired. Hav already endured 1yr, 2mths and 2wks for tuition. Year 2 is disgusting. Does anyone really know what I am going thru now?
After crying on his shoulders, I really felt much better. Never ever hav I felt like this before. Where is the original 'HAHA'-minghui?? Can I ever find it back? I feel like going to the beach and just sit there, listening to the waves.......
To Pigg: Thank you for telling me to lean on your shoulders. Thanks dearie! (:
I just hav to tell myself: Jiayou minghui! 2.75yrs more and I'll be fine! I can do it!
I felt really suffocated. Went to IMM to take a breather, but I just can't bring myself to hav a great smile. Im at a loss. Pigg bought 3 really nice tees @ $30! super good deal!
First time seeing him so happy, im happy for him too. But I couldnt bring myself to smile like I was before. For the first time in my life, I find it so hard to smile.
Then we went back hall after picking those good deals. During the moment of silence, I just hugged Pigg. I mentioned nothing and tears just rolled down my cheeks. I couldnt take it anymore.
I cried. Not because of Pigg nor anyone else.
Chemical Engineering, why is it so hard to study? Hav to tuition in order to support myself. I cant stop. I dont want my parents to suffer. They're old already. Thinking of this, every Sat I will drag my legs from the bed to bukit batok.
I felt really tired. Hav already endured 1yr, 2mths and 2wks for tuition. Year 2 is disgusting. Does anyone really know what I am going thru now?
After crying on his shoulders, I really felt much better. Never ever hav I felt like this before. Where is the original 'HAHA'-minghui?? Can I ever find it back? I feel like going to the beach and just sit there, listening to the waves.......
To Pigg: Thank you for telling me to lean on your shoulders. Thanks dearie! (:
I just hav to tell myself: Jiayou minghui! 2.75yrs more and I'll be fine! I can do it!
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